A Useful Metaphor...

When I am trying to explain the power of the disease of addiction to one of my patients, I sometimes use an escalator as a metaphor to describe how relapse works in the lives of recovering people.

Have you ever tried to walk up a "down" escalator? Most of us have tried this when we were kids. There's a certain thrill as we run up the moving steps and try to beat the constant flow of stairs moving against us.

In every respect, this is like the disease of addiction.

An escalator going down can easily represent the disease of addiction: It is constantly moving and changing and going in only one direction...down. It is trying to take us from a high place to a low one. It is trying to use its considerable power to transport us, change us, from one condition (being someplace we might not want to be) to another place (someplace we think is better).

So too, the disease of addiction is pulling at a recovering person to change his or her place in recovery. The disease is going only in one direction...down...and its considerable energy will transport us from someplace where the disease does not want to be (in recovery) to another place (relapse). And, this energy pushing down is relentless, powerful and aggressive.

Now...what happens when you start walking up this down escalator? When you jump on you immediately recognize that you must either keep up with the downward pressure or move faster than it in order to not be dragged down to the bottom. So, most people find the pace of the escalator and climb with a steady gait. The trouble with this solution is that sooner or later you notice that you are not going anywhere, get bored or fatigued, and generally give in soon to the pressure and give up. There are adventurous souls who want to climb to the top by going faster than the speed of the stairs, and they begin their ascent. They run up the stairs by leaps and bounds, or they make steady headway with a pace faster than the escalator, and sooner or later, they end up at the top having beaten the system arranged against them.

So too with recovery. If you generally just try to keep pace with the forces of relapse that are arrayed against you, sooner or later you realize that this is boring, you get fatigued and give up to those pressures and let them drag you down. If your strategy after a period of time of trying to keep pace is to rest for a moment and stand still on the stairs, you soon notice that the pressure of relapse keeps moving you down...you cannot stand pat in your recovery. But, if your strategy is to move continuously forward in recovery, you will move at a pace that is faster than the forces that would bring you down and you will eventually beat out some of those forces by reaching the goal of serenity.

I mention this to people who seem to be stuck in recovery, or listless and drifting, or even those who want to take a break from the rigor of striving against the powerful relapse warning signs, triggers and high risk situations that are arrayed against them daily. It's not enough to just keep pace with these signs of relapse, and it's certainly not sufficient to stand pat for a while when just trying to gather yourself together enough to figure out what is going on. Regrettably, a recovering person must always be moving forward in their recovery lest the forces of relapse surrounding them take over their recovery pace and push them down into full-blown chaos again.

I think this metaphor is useful to describe the forces of any addiction that is working against a person's recovery. Whether it be alcohol or other drugs, food, sex, gambling, spending, hoarding, or any type of compulsive behavior, there are forces that can drag a person down and spur a relapse. The solution is to have a child-like approach to life and scramble forward at a pace greater than these forces.

So long as I follow that way I have nothing to fear.

All the best, Roger W.